As I see it, you've got two problems, one of which I think I can help with, the other I can speculate on. First off, I have no idea why you can only see through one side of the window. I think it could be the strength of the light. Because the light source you put in the house to see inside is comparatively lighter compared to the sun (perhaps, the window is really, really tinted). Not sure, you might have to experiment.
Secondly, the reason light is coming through the wall, I believe, is you need to check receive shadows from surfaces in your atmosphere tab under Quality. I had the same problem, but from the reverse when I was experimenting with some towers I modeled. It's either that (most likely), or you have to take glow in atmosphere out of your light source (less likely). I'm still learning a little bit from what you did to create your glass, so if I come across something, I'll let you know.