Realflow is actually relatively easy compared to other packages.
Especially the last 2 versions create much better sims out of the box.
I managed to make some nice sims with it and then consider I'm a complete noob with pretty much anything else than TG.
I found Realflow pretty intuitive and simple to get started with.
Admittedly, there's quite a volume of settings to control and understand if you truly want to make it do your bidding, which can make it difficult.
As for RF obj output in TG. I tried it. Please don't do it.
First of all it is mindbogging slow and also mindbogging ugly.
TG's renderer is just not the tool for this type of job.
Instead I would try something like Richard suggested.
The last realflow has good integration with other renderers, so I would start reading on that.