Soft shadows with such a radius is a very bad idea, I'm afraid.
Not only is it unrealistic, but such a radius would also require quite a lot soft shadow samples to get reasonably noise free results.
(even default 0.5 requires >25 samples for smooth shadows on a flat white surface, so imagine)
The reason the shadows of your clouds are so dark is likely because of the cloud density.
Reducing cloud density should give lighter shadows from those clouds on the ground.